In her essay “There is no Blame, There Is Only Love,” Ann Karasinski writes about her daughter (Katie), who is addicted to heroin, and her reaction as a mother. She speaks of the need for blame at first—how addiction is associated with a “bad environment, bad parenting”, and says that there always has to be something or someone to blame. The author dealt with a huge range of emotions in the light of her daughter’s addiction: despair, anger, worry, and shock being some, and as she suffered, she came to believe that there was no blame, only love. This belief is optimistic, yet realistic at the same time. The fact that the author did all she could to help her daughter, to understand, and the way that she blamed herself more than anyone else reveals a deep, powerful emotion that goes beyond any terrible situation or occurrence thrown into their relationship. This is love.
The desire for hope is perhaps one of the most passionate, subconscious feelings of human nature. In her essay, Karasinski “longed for hope…[but] the only thing that still connected [her] to [her] daughter was love”. The author experienced one of the worst things a mother can go through when it comes to her children, yet her essay is not a bitter one. Instead, she talks of how she and Katie meet for breakfast on Friday mornings; how she “doesn’t try to heal her, [she] just love[s] her.” The authors struggle changed her life, but her writing clearly displays the fact that she has learned, coped, and moved on with her experiences—and perhaps her love for her daughter is even more powerful now than ever before.
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